I recently met with a divorcing couple who could not have been more warm and friendly, both to me and to each other. Both in their early 60’s, they just needed help navigating a confusing legal system. They had already divided their assets and were both satisfied with what they had achieved together. As they told me, they still loved each other, but they were no longer “in love” with each other. I was able to help them prepare the required forms and submit their divorce judgement to the court for processing.
I walked out of our meeting with renewed optimism for them, and for my role as an attorney and mediator. My philosophy is not to take the other spouse for everything he/she is worth (there are attorneys who can help you do that, if that is your goal), but to be the voice of reason, compassion, and hope for a happier future.
I thought this was an interesting article on how to be friends with your ex. Even if you are not friends, you do not have to be enemies.